Love and Self-esteem
This is the last posting on material from Paul Blackburn’s two-day seminar called Blockage Buster.
In Self-esteem: open the Floodgates”, self-esteem was obviously the main topic.
It still is in this posting and it’s joined with love.
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Do you ever think you should visit someone, like a member of the family, and then decide against it, and then the next time you think about it, quite some time has passed?
You feel bad, so you postpone it again.
Does this sound familiar? Yes, I’m sure it does.
Paul made an interesting comment.
He said: “Some people don’t care about what you’ve achieved; they just want you to show up.”
That really hit a chord with me.
We don’t always need to impress others, to tell them fascinating interesting things that we have being doing.
They just want us to show up and keep company for awhile.
Each visit doesn’t have to be long, rather have more short ones and more frequent ones and just chat; just ‘be with them’.
This is what loving is all about, showing up, and this is what feeds self-esteem.
On to another topic.
Research findings have shown that successful women in strenuous, traditionally male-dominated corporate environments are physically going bald as they are now producing more testosterone.
Many of these women wear pants suits, very tailored suits and try to fit in to the masculine physical and behavioural ‘look’ to achieve credibility.
They lose their femininity, forgetting the yin and yang harmony of life.
Remember two postings ago, we made the point about separating self-esteem from achievement.
If you really want to do something, really, really, really, and there is no apparent physical hindrance, you can.
A different issue exists, whether you want to, but if you want to, you can.
An analogy for self-esteem is like a cattle pen holding in the cattle and the gate is locked.
Open the gate and the cattle will stampede through.
Open the gate to your blockages of self-esteem, and let your self-esteem, stampede out – for all the world to enjoy.
Only you can make these changes, because your self-esteem is not dependent on anything.
You are a child of your Creator and are born perfect.
Conditioning has altered your belief in yourself, but you have not changed in your innate perfection.
On another note, he spoke about detaching yourself from an event, but still keeping the emotion.
Remember achievements and events just ‘things that we experience’, they are not who we are.
To get attached is pointless.
This doesn’t mean that we can’t get excited, that is the emotion we keep, but the event that caused that emotion, that is what we need to detach from.
For example, detach from money, just acknowledge what it can do.
You find people who have this outlook on money, often attract money to them, because they have no attachment it.
For many millionaires, multi-millionaires and billionaires, it is the process of acquiring the money that is exciting and what they can give back to society as a result of it.
I’ve met a few people, who said that once they had made their first million, they were surprised at how uneventful it really was.
They couldn’t believe it. For so long they had dreamt of that moment, and now that it was here, it was a non-event.
They continued working for the fun of it, and of course amassed more.
Just think of a present you once really, really wanted, and then you received it. There was no more excitement, was there?
Same thing.
And finally.
Love cannot be taught. Love is ‘learnt’ by seeing it demonstrated.
Love needs to be demonstrated – actions speak louder than words.
It’s been a real pleasure sharing some of the seminar with you.
My wish is that you might someday hear Paul and Mary in real-life.
Till next time, all the very best.
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