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that we ALL want the same outcomes in life

Let me elaborate.

Whatever family you were born into or grew up in, whatever economical or geographical environment or educative process you were influenced by, whether you had or didn’t have a form a spiritual persuasion for comfort – none of these things matter in your DESIRE to have the same outcomes in life.

Whatever colour, creed, gender and so on, I repeat:

We ALL want the same outcomes in our life.

Allow me to clarify. Regrettably I must clarify.

I’m talking about people who are ABLE to exercise the free will given to them by their Creator.

The divine gift given to everyone which, however, not everyone is in a position to exercise.

1. We all want to have enough nourishing food to eat and germ-free water to drink.

This desire is a simplistic way of having our physiological needs met, which naturally expands as we move up the ladder of affluence.

2. We all want a roof above our heads, preferably one that also protects us from Nature’s moods.

We want housing, not just to protect ourselves from the elements, but also to be protected from unfriendly human intervention.

We want security from attack, freedom from invasion of our privacy.

We want methods to avoid pain, externally inflicted.

3. Without exception, we want to feel that we are loved. We want to feel that people care about us.

We want to feel that the world would have a gap in it if we were not around.

We want evidence that we make a difference.

We want to love and be loved.

There needs to be a reciprocal sense of belonging between humans.

4. Leads on from the previous point.

We want to feel good about ourselves, take pride in ourselves.

This is where our self-esteem, our self-confidence, our knowledge of who we are comes into play.

This is the point at which we believe in ourselves, in the innumerable talents we possess.

5. These are the branches of the tree whose trunk is composed of the above 4 points.

We no longer have to fend for survival, not push ourselves forward for people to notice us.

We are comfortable in our skin. We acknowledge our uniqueness and are humbly proud of it, just as it should be.

This final level is known as self-actualization. It’s when we move past just looking at the world and the part we play in it from the “I” perspective to an outer perspective of “us”.

We look at our relationships with others. We become less self-centered and more other-centered and problem-solving-centered.

We identify more with humanity and look at ourselves more in the light of being a citizen of not just our part of the world, but of the universe.

We are now more concerned with democratic values, and here I’m not talking in political terms but in humanitarian terms.

We discover that we are beings capable of immense emotional depth who, as a result, are powerful beyond measure.

We now appreciate spontaneity, creativity and independence and treasure that we have these qualities within ourselves and recognize and respect them in others

As I said earlier, all things being equal, each one of us wants the above orientations.

We ALL want the same outcomes in our life.

These developmental stages were first published by Abraham Maslow in his Hierarchy of Needs mid-20^th century.

I’m not advocating Maslow’s theory, not at all.

I am simply illustrating that whoever we are, wherever we come from, whatever we do, we really are basically all the same.

We all want love, our needs fulfilled, and our opportunities for growth unimpeded.

Of significance however, is the Values System we have adopted to gain those wants.

A Values System discussion will be a future posting.

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