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We have been doing quite a lot of work on Assertion Skills for quite a few postings.

This time, we will look at a very simple Seven-Step Feedback sequence to let another person know how you feel about a particular situation.

Remembering that assertion is simply saying it how you feel.

It has nothing to do with putting blame or responsibility for a situation on the other person.

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Rights are an entitlement, not a privilege.

Equally, however, rights come with responsibilities.

This balance is very important, otherwise behaviour can slip into aggression.

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At the end of the last posting, “Assertiveness and Outside Influences”, I said that we’d be looking at, managing stress to build up your confidence allowing you to go out of your comfort zone more frequently.

There are seven basic steps to stress management for self-confidence building:

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At the end to a previous posting, “My Optimum Assertive Style”, I made reference to ‘outside influences’, which could affect your ability to be assertive.

By the way, how did you go with the exercise?

Did you think of a person you needed to be more assertive with?

Did you find a typical situation in which you might find yourself with that person?

And did you analyze the situation using the 5 X W-H checklist?

All the different skills, you can amass so that assertiveness becomes part of your every day behaviour, are worthwhile.

The exercise above will help you be better prepared when next dealing with a person within a similar situation.

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 This is the last posting on material from Paul Blackburn’s two-day seminar called Blockage Buster.

In Self-esteem: open the Floodgates”, self-esteem was obviously the main topic.

It still is in this posting and it’s joined with love.

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Here is further material from Paul Blackburn’s , Blockage Buster seminar.

In the previous posting, we were talking about self esteem, and how that should be separated from achievement.

Continuing on with the topic of self esteem, we’ll look at some of the love substitutes that you may have looked for as a child.

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This time I would like to share with you material Paul Blackburn dealt with on day two of Blockage Buster.

He said that there can never be absolutes in personal development.

Each person develops at their own personal pace.

Tools and strategies need to be generic and flexible, as each person will implement these in their own unique way according to their needs.

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In the previous article, “Do you wait or do you Leap?”, I brought up what Paul Blackburn refers to as being over-stimulation.

Mike Filsaime has a useful concept called Hedgehog that counteracts the negative side of over-stimulation.

For 30 days do just the one project. No other project, just that one.

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I’d like to share two more aspects from the material that Paul Blackburn delivered during the two-day Blockage Buster seminar.

First one

I found it amusing when Paul said that we are bothered by standing still, and think that some movement or action is better than none.

He gave the analogy of someone standing at an isolated railway station.

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At the beginning of this week, I went to a two-day seminar called Blockage Buster.

This seminar is the brainchild of Paul and Mary Blackburn from Canberra, Australia.

Paul is possibly best known for being an elite coach at the Australian Institute of Sport working with Olympic and it would-be Olympic champions.

However, for decades, Paul and Mary have been running a series of different programs to do with changing your mindset in the various areas of your life.

To find out more about them check out their website, Beyond Success.

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