Meet and Greet
Hello, from Brisbane, Australia.
Fabulous one day, Magnificent the next
I’ll start by telling you a just a little about myself so that you can see how this blog will be of service to you.
People and helping them achieve the lives (not a typo) they really want is my passion.
Whatever your issue, I can guarantee that with brainstorming together, we can dilute its impact so that ultimately you can inductively come up with your own solution.
Inductively simply means, in the end you, yourself know what to do.
Permanent changes can only occur, if you want them from the deepest part of you, from your nonconscious level.
We are social beings and we succeed and achieve our best results with and through the input of other people, coupled with our own natural, innate brilliance.
When you think of the word ‘brilliant’ what comes to mind? What other words would you use to describe it?
Who comes to mind when you think of ‘brilliant’? When have you been brilliant?
Make a list, no matter how small you think the deed or situation might have been; acknowledge each time and event. When has someone you love been brilliant, or someone you know?
Keep thinking about the word brilliant, and end off with: I AM BRILLIANT.
I’m not implying that we are brilliant in everything we do. I’m saying that as a person, our total-created-self is brilliant.
Because of our free will and all the choices we have made in relation to the circumstances that have entered our life, we are the current product called ‘ourself’.
This ‘self’ creates more of the same in its life unless a conscious choice is made to change the patterns or paradigms.
This means, we have the free will to change ourselves and our circumstances, bit by bit, little step by little step or giant leap by giant leap.
Just to give you a bit of background, I’m fully trained in NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), and have been in education, training and counseling all my life. My clients are children, adolescents, adults, either in groups or one-on-one.
I believe in ongoing learning and development, to sharpen my skills and ensure practice of the most current techniques and knowledge.
Life-long-learning and applying those learnings are some of the most empowering passions a person can have to evolve in this wonderful world/universe we live in.
As we progress you’ll get to know more about me.
But now, I’d like to know the journey you’re on, and what you would like to achieve.
So, take advantage of my free guidance (for a limited time only) which I provide to paying clients and take advantage of my experience, skills and training.
Have a most splendid day.
Gloria
Hi Gloria
Thanks for your generous offer. My journey is to shine more. I admire women like Queen Latifa and Oprah - they’re out there and making a stand, confident, self assured & know who they are.
I used to be very confident, probably overly confident and if challenged I would make it my mission to prove I was right. I remember an old boss telling me (and an old boyfriend) “Kerri, you always have to be right, don’t you?” As you can imagine, a few more experiences like this finally humbled me and made me realize how much I have to learn. Somehow this humbleness has taken over my whole identity. I really take it to heart when anyone makes any comment about me & then I set off to improve that part of myself. I’ve somehow lost me.
Gloria, how can I be both humble, eager to learn and grow and still be very confident in my own skin as a woman?
Hello Kerri, and welcome to Empowered You.
Exercise: Read the whole exercise first. Be happy as you do it. Put a smile on your face
To begin with, I’d like you write a list of all the fabulous qualities you possess, that you feel are ‘good’ about you. Just keep writing, writing, and writing; keep going. Be free and fluid in your thinking.
Ask you non-conscious mind to help you.
I know you could write an A4-size page.
As you do this, just keep writing until you come to a mental halt. Then, after this first mental stop, I want you to add another 4 qualities.
When you come to another mental halt, I want you to add another 2 qualities – things you like about yourself. Feel content as you do this.
Write down whatever comes to mind, don’t judge any word, or think too hard, just write as the words occur to you.
Ask you non-conscious mind to help you.
Once you have done that list, I’d like you to draw a table with each of the following headings: self-esteem, confidence, self-assuredness; knowing yourself; a need to always be right; humility.
Some words may be difficult to place, but go with your gut feeling (your non-conscious mind) and place them in one of the columns.
If more words come to you as you enter the existing words in the tables, place those as well.
End of exercise.
Are you surprised at some of the words you wrote? Are you surprised into which column you put some of the words? Are you surprised how full some columns are, and how empty others are? How do you feel?
Research has shown that we have more understanding of ourself than we are acknowledging or using. This is because we hide behind a mask.
This mask is one we have adopted that may have once served us well, but now no longer does. We most likely don’t even remember when we took on this mask. At that time it helped us cope with life as ‘we saw it – not as it really was, but as we saw it.
Our perception of reality is not reality itself; it’s our interpretation of what is happening around us, and this is based upon how we see ourself, due to past conditioning.
Exercise: For at least twice to three times a day, look at yourself in the mirror and say, “This is me, this is who I am.” Just look into your eyes, in the mirror, and say that sentence. Do this for a couple of weeks, and then give me feedback on your experience. Keep it up, please do it.
Our behaviours and ways of thinking have become so much a part of ourself that we aren’t aware of them and how disempowering they now are for us. We have changed, but we cling to old perceptions of ourself.
Ultimately, you must love yourself unconditionally. Stop judging yourself by other people’s comments and the way they behave towards you.
In NLP, one major presupposition is that, if we live our life ecologically, if we make our decisions ecologically, then we’re pretty much on track.
What does living ecologically mean?
If decisions, which lead to actions, are made based on the following criteria, then we’ll be doing okay, ie
• Is what I’m thinking or about to do good for me and won’t hurt me
• Is what I’m thinking or about to do good for others and won’t hurt them
• Is what I’m thinking or about to do good for the planet and won’t hurt it
I put ‘thinking’ in there, because thoughts are energy and, therefore, have enormous power.
Sometimes our need for accuracy means that we correct others. We need to gauge what is necessary to be accurate and what can be left as it is. I remember when my daughter was young, if I said that something happened yesterday, she would correct me and say, yesterday morning. It didn’t really matter when exactly, but, for her, it had to be ‘accurate’. Fortunately, she grew out of it, and now laughs about it herself. When such corrections multiply over the course of a longer time frame, it can cause tension.
Values such as confidence, knowing yourself and humility stem from a deep respect, trust, and love of oneself. These are strengthened when we focus on all the magnificent qualities that are innate in ourself and don’t judge ourself harshly.
Humility is not putting ourselves down, it’s actually being proud of who we are and being gracious about it with no fanfare.
Kerri, I hope the above is of help.
We humans are such wonderful, miraculous creations. If we only acknowledged this, we would never undervalue ourselves.
Please let me know if I can help further.
All the best,
Gloria H
Hi Gloria,
Love the content. I will be blogrolling you in my fav link. Wld be good if you have Rss feed in your blog so that I am able to be updated whenever you post new thoughts in your blog.
Melvin Tan
SMCC
Hi Melvin,
I actually have installed RSS feed using Stephen’s RSS Announcer.
Down the bottom of the page, there is a link for Comments RSS feed. That opens up a window that has “Subsctibe to this feed”. Is that not it?
If it’s not, I don’t what happened.
Thanks for pointing that out. I’ll look into it.
Also thanks for the compliments, always nice to know one is on the right track.
All the best.
Gloria H